My Friend Is My Girlfriend
Oct31
Wow.. hot title.. I always do this stupid mistake which become my love disasterous.. Most of the time, I am very easy to fall in love with my female friends, because I thought she will easily understand me and love me for who I am. This is the big mistake in my life. I confessed to her. In my reading, if we want our friend to fall in love with us, never put ourself in love situation when we around them. Just be friend, go with the flow. You surely won’t believe me right? So, let me put something that I read from Love Guru, Marius Panzarela.
The saying goes here:
Have you ever been attracted to a girl who just wants
to “be friends” with you? If so, this email is probably going
to be the most important email you’ve ever read this month. In
the next few moments, I am going to show you how you can turn
a “friend” into a “girlfriend” without jeopardizing your
friendship with her.
A lot of guys like to fantasize about befriending a
hottie and sucking up to her until she finally sees what a
great guy he is and starts dating him.
Ugh. It doesn’t work that way.
You see, to a women, there are 2 categories of men:
“potential lovers” and “just friends”. Once you have fallen
into the “just friends” category, it’s hard to get out.
You are most likely to be stuck for life. I call this the
“friendship trap”.
So…if you meet a girl you like, please?make your
move. Do not become the “doormat” she runs to when she is
between boyfriends.
Now, maybe you’re “stuck” as a friend already (too bad
you hadnt read this earlier eh?) so I’m going to give you
a few tips on how to turn a friend into a girlfriend.
First of all, DON’T tell your friend you like her!
I am serious. DO NOT tell your friend you like her
directly.
Most guys spend days or weeks gathering the courage
to tell a girl they like her, only to fail miserably!
Remember the key to attraction is…it’s not how much
you’re attracted to a woman, but how much she is attracted
to YOU that matters.
Women do not care about a man loves them. They only care
about how much THEY like a man. I am sure you like her, but does
she like you? YOU DON’T KNOW! And that’s why you should NOT risk
embarrassing yourself!
Also, men who “gather the courage” to “suddenly tell the
girl he loves her” usually do it at the “wrong” time, like when
a girl least expects it. Surprises are scary and women don’t know
how to react. Their NATURAL reaction is to turn you down on the
spot (”I have a boyfriend” or “I am not looking for someone right
now”, etc) just to be safe - even if they regret it later.
So, instead of putting the focus on your feelings and
worrying about how you can tell her you love her, I want you to
focus on getting HER to tell you she likes you.
Now, the biggest difference between a friendship and a
relationship is that there is sexual/romantic chemistry, and
that’s why I want you to start flirting with her and drive the
chemistry up. It’s time to ATTRACT her, not to chase her. Your
goal is to get HER to fall for you and eventually ask you the “Are
we together?” question.
Lastly, flirting with her will allow you to see if she
likes you or not. If she ignores you or doesn’t respond well to
the flirting, then she’s not interested in you. But if she flirts
back, she wants you!
October 31st, 2008 at 9:30 PM
mcm movie la pula…kawan2…lama2 jatuh cinta lepas tu kecewa bila girl tu ade pakwe lain..tapi biasalah kalau boleh jatuh cinta dengan kawan baik sebab kita baik dengan dia sebab ada keserasian.
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October 31st, 2008 at 9:33 PM
haha.. lajunya makcik komen2.. saya tgh tukar2 theme, tetiba jer ada komen.. haha.. :mrgreen:
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November 1st, 2008 at 11:11 AM
Memang betul tu..bagi kak tie laa…semua boys yang declare cinta mereka selalunya tergopoh2 buat keputusan. Dan Kak tie rasa begitu didesak.
Hubby kak tie tak pernah declare cinta dia. Dia hanya teman rapat kak tie, hinggalah dia rescue kak tie dari kahwin dgn org yang kak tie tak kenal. Dia buat kak tie perlukan dia, sentiasa tertanya2 khabarnya kiranya dia menyepi..(pandai lak jual mahal). Kak tie begitu selesa dgnnya kerana dia tak pernah kata yg dia sukakan kak tie. Cuma layanan dia saja sudah cukup buat kak tie rasa istimewa.
Kak tie pun tak pernah terfikir ttg declare ni, hinggalah issmile utarakan di sini. Skrg dah tahu rahsianya…so…apa lagi?? Start berkawan lah!!
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November 1st, 2008 at 11:14 AM
Oh! ya…nampak gaya blog ni dah jadi blog jiwang lak..hi hi…tgk headernya pun dah lentok!! Kah! Kah!
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November 1st, 2008 at 11:44 AM
wah.. first time kak tie dtg cni? terima kasih atas penceritaan pengalaman kak tie.. ia amat membantu saya dlm arena pencarian cinta..
Ini adalah blog jiwang saya, sumer cerita disini adalah pasal cinta..
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November 7th, 2008 at 8:44 PM
wahhhhhhhhhhhh..posting sangat berguna and i love this green flower th0
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November 19th, 2008 at 11:19 AM
Aight…most of it is true and thanks for pointing it out. He might show interest in her, but, somehow, she does not know the hints and signals that he sent her, so she just let it be like that, and he thought that she is not interested in him when in fact she does but mixed signals and hints finds her in miserable so he finds its hard. So how is it then?
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November 19th, 2008 at 12:50 PM
zara, what u said has happen to me. We can’t understand the same feeling we have.
That’s becoz I don’t tell her at all. what we have to do is give a hint. Saying like, “u r the most close friend that I have”. Just don’t tell directly.
The situation that u mention most likely to happen. I like u, U like me but we can’t understand our feeling toward each other. Using hint, we somehow can understand what the other party likely to say. O:-)
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November 19th, 2008 at 1:42 PM
So does that phrase “u r the most close friend that I have” indicate that he likes (and love) that girl? Really? If that is the case, then perhaps I am truly bad in reading signals and hints..coz that phrase has been uttered to me few times but still I failed to read between the lines..Hmmm…no wonder my title remains as ‘friend’ when I keep questioning when will I be upgraded.. Duhhh…
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November 19th, 2008 at 1:56 PM
When I read ur comment, you really similar to someone that I like very much. When I say phrase like that, she just take it as a joke. It really broke my heart.
Maybe you can ask him back, “Is that mean you like me very much or you just wanna tease me?”
If you brave enough.
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November 19th, 2008 at 3:29 PM
Thank God its not your heart that I broke tho’. :) No, I dont take it as a joke, but I dont know what and how to react. I admit that I failed in this love dept.
How to tell if he’s into me? And how to really tell that? I’ve read few things on ‘He’s not that into you’ and also on related articles but still, it differs on case to case basis, aight? Geezzz..I thought that such a phrase is just a phrase with not much of a thought that it able to upgrade the ‘friend’ title. Had I known it earlier, at least I know what to reply and ask him back. Perhaps its too late now, though.
zara has last entry about..Go and fly kite!
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November 19th, 2008 at 3:41 PM
It’s good that you don’t take it as joke. One thing that u can repair ur mistake is; you should know when he is flirting with u. When friends flirting, it’s really mean that he’s onto you (read the last para of article). If you response back, the connection will be likely successful. :heart:
Me as a man, when I like someone which is friend, I will always try to flirt. If she response, mean she is also into me. Unlucky me same as you, I failed in love dept too. :brokenheart:
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November 19th, 2008 at 3:51 PM
Ahhh…that flirting…I admit I failed. I have no idea of What, When and Why…if its the normal one or it warrant my attention. Ahhh…its ok. Perhaps its too late. I dont know how to amend that though. Let it be? Or..?
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November 19th, 2008 at 3:52 PM
Hepppp… jap… cepat gila u reply ekk.. Btw..this blog is specifically meant for the love dept, eh? Kewl.
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November 19th, 2008 at 4:19 PM
Is he already married to someone? If not then you are never too late. Perhaps he will change his heart as he only see u the only one who can make him happy.
Like me, I try to have relationship with other girl. But it’s not likely to be success bcoz I have this particular girl that I really like since school. Even staring at her frenster pics will make me nervous. So, may be he can be like that with you someday (if he is still not married).
- haha.. dapat notice eh aku reply cepat.. ? hehe.. tiap kali komen baru masuk, aku akan reply kalu kat blog nih. lgpon masalah cik sama cam masalah aku. Different gender but facing same problem. 8-) Yes. This is Love Blog.
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November 19th, 2008 at 5:00 PM
Nope. I refused and shoved myself away from married man as much as I dont want that to happen to myself. And it sucks tho to ruin other people’s life, aite. Errr..well, it may not be late… we’ll see. I need hints and signals now..it seems that it has gone away from me. Have you ever feel missing that someone and that someone suddenly pop up or call or sms u and it happen most of the time…do you regard it as mere coincidence or its something to do with the old tale that she/he missed you too?
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November 19th, 2008 at 5:07 PM
I also don’t want you to disturb married man. Just saying if he still not in any relationship with other woman or just be friend with other woman.
Someone suddenly call? I wish that happen to me. Most likely you have better chance if that happen. Mean, he wanna get in touch with you. Knowing you even closer and better. It’s not coincidence. Everything that happen have it’s reason. O:-)
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November 19th, 2008 at 5:31 PM
First thing: I am unsure if there is any serious relationship with any others.
Secondly: Yeah.. i like to think it that way too. And I just dont want that to stop. But dayemm.. I think I have let it stop, tho. :( Ok…what wud u think if let’s say a lady told u that she missed u (after a while of hints and signals that might wrongly perceived by both parties). What is your reaction to that? Will u just be quiet abt it or respond to her ‘missing’? I need to know man’s view.
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November 19th, 2008 at 5:44 PM
My perspective? Okay.. this is perspective from a single man.
If suddenly a lady told me that she missed me. So, in condition where she and I is still friend. I likely to response to that immediately. Either I say no or yes depend on either I am the one who flirting with her first or she start flirting with me. If I start flirting first, definitely I take the lady missing thing seriously. If she start flirting first, I will have second thought. Is she serious or am I dreaming.
So you better prepare for that reaction. But frankly said, most guys won’t reject woman on the spot like woman did if he don’t have any serious relationship. He will try to make the relationship successful and to see if he and she suitable to be together.
I hope that helps. :highfive:
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November 19th, 2008 at 6:17 PM
Yup. It helps. Thanks. And in my case, I believe that it is just my feeling that play tricks on my mind. I dont think I be able to go to that dept now..or maybe later. Dont know. Its all mixed up self-emotions I guess.
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November 19th, 2008 at 8:50 PM
I am glad I can help. But let not be the tricks still playing in ur mind. If you think he give u a hint, ask him something similar to flirting. Maybe you can get straight answer. Let ur love comes again.
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