Trauma

by Issmile | February 28th, 2009 

Childhood is a great time if we encounter a great memory. Sometimes it can affect the rest of our life. Childhood also can cause us certain trauma as the effect from bad things or bad memories. Such as phobia of being keep in small room or phobia to see sharp thing directly.

I have phobia/trauma which is cause by love rejection. Some people see childhood love is just simple and fun memory. It should not be taken seriously for what happen in childhood. It is not the same for me. The way my love have been reject still haunted me. Why?

Has someone reject your love directly to your face and said things that really hurts your feeling? I have this experience and I face it many times. Either you believe it or not, it’s up to you.

My first love been rejected when I am 12 years old. Teenager transition time occur between age 11 years old and 15 years old. At that time, I am a fat and chubby boy who fall in love with a slim and beautiful girl. I am not confident of myself but I still try to tackle the girl. I got help from my junior, a girl who is willing to help me. She always deliver my love notes to the girl. Until one day, my friend that help me come to me and tell me this, “She (the girl) don’t want me to disturb her again and she also said ‘hidung tak mancung, pipi pulak tersorong-sorong’” So, I directly ask the girl that I like, if what my friend said is true. She replied ‘yes’ to what I asked. It’s really left a deep hurt mark in my heart.

How To Tell If A Girl REALLY Likes You

by Issmile | December 16th, 2008 
There is actually one simple trick you can use when you’re not sure if a girl likes you or not, or if you’re getting lost in one of her “mind games”. I call it the “action compass”. Next time you talk to a woman, never mind her words – just focus on her action.

  • If a girl tells you she loves you verbally but she’s being a bitch to you otherwise, then she?s just lying about her love for you. If she truly loved you, she shouldn’t be acting like a bitch, should she?
  • If a girl whines about something stupid, then watch her action closely. Chances are she is just using the “something stupid” to get something else. Don’t be annoyed by the “something” she’s telling you about. Does her action show she’s trying to get attention from you? Or maybe approval?
  • If a girl hesitates when you ask her out, even if she says yes you know you’re in trouble because her tone and body language shows she’s just being nice. So now, you know you have to work extra hard during the date to impress her. You will be unlike most guys, who will be VERY happy cause they’re blinded by their feelings and can’t realize that the girl is only going out with them to be polite.
  • So a girl is calling you names and hitting you on the chest. But is she being playful about it? If so, then it doesn’t matter if she calls you the biggest jerk on earth! Her actual action shows she likes you – quite a lot.
  • A girl agrees to go out with you but doesn’t show up at the date. Well, no matter what excuses she makes up after, her action still shows she’s a bitch!

With a little bit of practice, you can use this “action compass” to navigate your way out every time you get lost in one of her mind games or tantrums.

Source: Marius Panzarella

Step Back A Bit

by Issmile | December 13th, 2008 
stepbackabit

Love will always haunt us for every seconds of our life. Life without love is surely a boring situation. But, can love conquer them all? Will love will always bring you happiness? There will be a time where we will have to step back our feeling a bit. We are not retreating just taking precaution of the next step that we will make. How we can determine when is the right time to take a step back from lovey dovey feeling? So, here I will give some my method to determine when we have to take one step back and recalculate about our feeling.

  1. I will re-thinkĀ  my love for her when I realize that I don’t have enough capability to end up our relationship in marriage. Every woman in this world like to have beautiful and stable marriage. So as a man, we must think of our stability first. Our career, our life style, her life style and our financial management. If we have problems in these areas, we should re-think our lovey dovey feeling because we won’t manage to give her the happiness that she want.
  2. We should re-think about our loving status when we having doubt of our commitment. There will be a time when we question ourselves about commitment. Some of us will always commit to work and some of us will always commit only to oneself (selfish). So, if you have this feeling, you should re-think you lovey dovey feeling.
  3. Take a step back if you have problem in deciding who have the priority; family or lover. This is most common problem that people are facing. As for me, family will always come first no matter what. We should think ahead, if we choose lover, do you think they will stay with us forever? If family, they will always be with us no matter what our conditions. That’s why choose family first and then turn your lover into your family which mean take the lover as your spouse.

So, that is all I can think about. You have any? please let me know through comment. Thanks..

“Meeting you was a fate, Fall in love with you is my destiny, Marrying you is my happiness”

I’m Just Too Shy and I Don’t Know Why

in Story
by Issmile | December 12th, 2008 
Love story which really make my heart cry in tears. If I just be brave enough, will our love unites?

10th grade
As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called “best friend”. I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn’t notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before and handed them to her. She said “thanks” and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I’m just too shy, and I don’t know why.

11th grade
The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn’t want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said “thanks” and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I’m just too shy, and I don’t know why.

Senior year
The day before prom she walked to my locker. My date is sick” she said; he’s not going to go well, I didn’t have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as “best friends”. So we did. Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but she isn’t think of me like that, and I know it. Then she said “I had the best time, thanks!” and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I’m just too shy, and I don’t know why.
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